Lately, I’ve been leaning into the quiet.
There’s so much noise in today’s world — so much urgency, heartbreak, and constant pressure to stay “on.” And honestly? It’s been overwhelming. As a business owner, advocate, and single mom trying to build something meaningful, I’ve had to find new ways to create space for myself… even if it’s just for five minutes.
These are the rituals that have been grounding me.
Not in the Instagram-aesthetic kind of way.
In the this-keeps-me-sane kind of way.
Self-Massage and Gua Sha
I’ve really been getting into facial massage techniques lately — especially gua sha. At first, it started because I was dealing with constant sinus pressure. But the more I learned, the more I realized how healing it was. I take my time now. I focus on the pressure, the strokes, the rhythm.
Those few minutes — just me, my hands, and my face oil — have become a kind of meditation.
It’s my quiet time. My reset button.
It doesn’t matter how loud the world is — this is my moment to come home to myself.
Coffee as a Ritual
I’m both a tea and coffee person, but let’s be real — you’ll almost always find me with a coffee in hand. What used to feel like a chore has become a ritual I really cherish.
I make it how I like it: cinnamon, steamed milk, slow and intentional.
I take it out to the patio, leave my phone inside, and just sit with my cup.
No distractions. No notifications. Just me, the breeze, and the cars passing by.
It’s not fancy. But it’s sacred.
And it reminds me that joy lives in the in-between moments.
Cooking to Create
Hear me out… cooking is another ritual that grounds me.
Not the “I have to cook dinner at 6pm” kind of cooking.
The “I want to cook something beautiful” kind of cooking.
It’s when I go to the market just to pick out ingredients.
When I stop for a bottle of wine on the way home.
When I light a candle, put on my favorite playlist, and just lose myself in the process.
No timeline. No deadline. No one to talk to. Just me and the act of creating.
It’s probably why I love formulating products so much. Whipping up body butters used to make my mouth water — and I’m not even kidding. There’s something deeply therapeutic about being a creative. It can drive you a little crazy… but it heals your soul at the same time.
On Journaling and Letting Go
I want to be a journaler. I really do. I’ve collected so many journals over the years — you know the kind with the crisp, untouched pages that smell like fresh possibility?
I used to journal a lot. But somewhere along the way, I developed this weird belief that whenever I wrote something too good in my journal, something bad would happen.
Coincidence? Maybe. But it stuck.
So I paused the practice — even though I still encourage others to do it. It’s healing.
And it reminds you, when you read back later, just how deeply human we are.
We feel so strongly in the moment — joy, pain, overwhelm — and yet as Tom Hanks once said:
This too shall pass.
The bad moments pass.
The good ones do too.
But the constant is you — and how you show up for yourself in those moments.
Disconnecting to Reconnect
The truth is, nothing grounds me more than disconnection.
Leaving my phone inside.
Camping.
Letting nature remind me how small I am — and how powerful stillness can be.
We weren’t built to absorb everything, all the time.
Sometimes the most radical thing you can do is log off and breathe.
A Ritual, A Reminder, A Return
This is why I wanted to bring back Becalia.
To create products that remind us to take those grounding moments.
To hold something in your hands that says this moment is for you.
It’s why I created Luma — a facial oil, yes, but more than that, a ritual in a bottle.
Something to pair with your morning gua sha, your evening massage, or just a few deep breaths before bed.
Let’s Talk About It Live
Join me and Kathy Rivera of Kathy Rivera Co. on Instagram Live as we talk about the everyday rituals that ground us, the practices that carry us through hard seasons, and how skincare can be a form of care that goes far beyond the surface.
More details coming soon — but sign up below to get first dibs when we go live and when Luma officially launches.
Rituals don’t have to be daily. They don’t have to be perfect.
They just have to be yours.
And even the smallest ones can anchor you when everything else feels like too much.
